ou’ve cut the keys. You’ve waited for the right moment — perhaps over a romantic dinner or on a weekend away — and then you ask the question: Will you move in with me? It’s a huge step in your relationship, one you’ve been building toward. It reflects the love and trust you’ve nurtured together and signals that you’re ready to share your lives more deeply. Maybe it’s a step you’ve taken after marriage, committing to forever by making a home together.

While there may be teething problems — negotiating rent, deciding where things go in the kitchen, or figuring out which way the toilet roll should face — this step is about much more. It’s a sign of profound intimacy and trust.

LIVING TOGETHER

Living together is more than sharing space; it’s about sharing a way of life. It’s waking up together, supporting one another, and agreeing on the principles of how to live. In John 14, Jesus tells His disciples that if they love Him and obey His teaching, He and the Father will make their home with them. This is a divine ‘moving in,’ where God invites us into the deepest intimacy of all: a home with the Creator of the universe, built on true love and a shared way of being.

Now, you might think, ‘It’s a bit much to say, “I’ll only move in with you if you love and obey me.”’ So let’s reframe the invitation. Here in the city, many people share houses. But there’s a difference between sharing a house and making a home. Are we just housemates with God?

A SHARED HOME. A DEEPER LIFE

Housemates live under the same roof but can avoid deeper connection. You don’t bother them, and they don’t bother you. Is that how we relate to God? If so, this invitation is about moving beyond mere cohabitation. God wants something more: a shared home, a deeper life. It’s not about obligation or control; it’s about love. As scripture says, ‘Those who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.’ Accepting this invitation means saying, ‘Yes, I trust You to share my life.’

So you say yes. You open the door and let God move in. Everything change — not just the space, but you. When you share your life with someone, you’re shaped by them. Conversations influence what you dream about. Shared decisions reshape your priorities. Even the home you create together reflects both of you. These small changes, bit by bit, mould who you are.

When we say yes to God, His presence gently reorders our hearts. It’s not a hostile takeover, but a transformation — a reshaping to reflect His love, grace, and peace. It’s like living with someone and, over time, realising, ‘We’re starting to do things the same way!’ Similarly, as we dwell with God, we gradually become more like Christ. This transformation isn’t just our effort but the work of God’s Spirit within us.

A TRANSFORMATIVE PRESENCE

Of course, sharing life isn’t always easy. If you’re thinking, ‘This man has clearly never had to live with my other half!’, you’re right. But I’m not suggesting it’s all smooth sailing. Sharing life involves vulnerability. You let someone into the private parts of your life — the scars and the shames. This can bring profound discomfort and even disagreement. But God won’t walk out on us. He doesn’t shy away from the messy parts of our lives. Instead, He longs to make His home with us, not as a guest but as a loving, transformative presence.

And unlike a human partner, God doesn’t bring baggage. He brings peace. Jesus promises, ‘Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you.’ This isn’t a fragile, worldly peace but a deep and enduring calm, rooted in God’s love and presence. When we let Him in, He brings this peace into the chaos of our lives.

Picture this: You’re standing at the door, letting someone you love walk in with their bags. There’s a mix of excitement and vulnerability, but you know this step will deepen your relationship. Now imagine God at the door of your heart. He’s not carrying bags, but He’s bringing His peace, His Spirit, and His love. He’s asking to move in. Will you let Him?